My husband David vanished ten years ago, and since then I’ve worked hard to rebuild my life. I moved to New York City, got a great job managing an art gallery, and I was just offered the chance to debut my own paintings—if I can finish the gallery expansion on time. But then I found out that David suddenly reappeared, and it’s a huge distraction, you know? Not only is it bringing up a lot of old feelings, but from what little he remembers about last decade, it sounds like I was the one who disappeared. Somehow, I need to deal with that situation without missing my big opportunity.
What made you want your story to be told?
I wanted to show that you can both follow your heart and open it up to another person, too. Love can complicate things, but the right person can bring out strength you never knew you had.
What lead you to make the changes you did in your life?
After David disappeared, I spent just about every minute and dollar I had trying to find him. When I was finally broke, I sold the house and moved back in with my parents. At that point, I knew I had to move on. I’ve dreamed of being an artist in New York City since I was a little girl, and as much as I wanted David to share that dream with me, I couldn’t let the fact that he vanished stop me from trying to get there.
In your life, what has empowered you?
My parents have always been very supportive of my art. I almost gave up painting when my plans to go to art school fell through, but they encouraged me to stick with it. David felt guilty that we couldn’t move to New York after college, but he never doubted we would get there someday. His confidence in me, naïve as it was sometimes, stuck with me even after he vanished.
What are strengths and weaknesses?
I’m generally optimistic and I’m not afraid of hard work, but sometimes I rely too much on feeling my way through a problem rather than planning my approach. Hey, it works most of the time!
Describe what being a self-rescue princess (a strong, confident woman) means to you.
I think it’s about staying true to who you are and what you want, no matter how much your life changes. You have to believe in yourself enough to take chances, and have faith that the people who care most about you will back you up even in the craziest circumstances.
What one advice/wisdom would you like to pass onto young women?
Even if it takes longer than you think it should, even if your life gets turned completely upside down along the way, and even if your dreams change a little over time, keep chasing them. As hard as that can be sometimes, it’s always worth it.
Favorite quote or Bible verse.
“If something’s going wrong, you’re doing the job right.” My dad says that all the time, but I’m not sure whether he made it up or heard it somewhere. He’s in construction, and he hates it when subcontractors take shortcuts. Any job worth doing is going to have its challenges, and to do it right you have to work through them, you know?
Will you be continuing your journey in written form?
Kind of. I’m going to share some of my experiences from the ten years David was missing using an online interactive platform. It’s more of a prologue than a continuation, but I’m excited to tell more about how I got from that awful morning David disappeared to living my dream in New York City.
Is there anyone in your life (friend, family member) who will be sharing their life?
I don’t know for sure, but I have a feeling my friend Emma may have an adventure or two in her future. Since she and David are like siblings—not to mention how much she helped me after he vanished—I’ll probably end up involved somehow!